Mary Biviens
WIFYS
Dr. Shannon Mortimore- Smith
2/23/2015
Connected but Alone
Sometimes when I am walking down the
street and I see someone who I wish not to talk to, I’ll slide my headphones in
my ears and listen to music. That way the person will not make an attempt to
gain my attention. I catch myself doing that all the time, using my phone as an
escape to avoid communication. It seems to work all the time for me. In making
this comment I feel not only me but all of us lack true communication skills
nowadays because of the use in technology.
“We’re getting used to being alone
together” Sherry Turkle tells. What she proclaims here is that this new
generation often uses our devices to escape from the real world. We do not
surely notice it but sometimes of course we often catch ourselves doing it. Over
the years technology has gotten more smart and creative. We are able to send
out emails and talk to our friends on social media but some of us has a
difficult time making eye contact. The problem with that so is because we have
gotten so used to communicate through all types of resources with technology we
find it harder to discuss face to face.
I could often agree with this issue because
I find it hard to talk in person too. Talking face to face requires me to focus
on eye contact, hold my body language properly to stay engaged, also
face-to-face conversation deals with a lot of unsystematic speaking which is
not my best tendency. We lose our communication skills the more we decide to
involve ourselves in technology. I guess the real reason we decide to do this
is because face-to-face conversation requires more work and effort whereas
using devices to contact someone by email does not. It is so much easier to put
thoughts together typing or writing someone.
We usually go to our technology for
comfort. When we are alone, we watch movies. When we get bored, we play
electronic games. If we’re going through emotions, we’ll put up a status on
Facebook or tweet about it on Twitter. Turkle says “That feeling that no one is
listening to me wants us to spend more time with machines”.
Machines all have types of sources
that could benefit and entertain us rather than people can. We look up
directions/ locations, we shop, we watch TV, we search information, we play
music, and most importantly it gives us the opportunity to stay in contact with
others. But do we? Yes, but not as we should. We have become indolent to
talking to people and along the way we lost how to communicate. Our technology
can provide solutions to us and that is why we turn to it.
When Turkle acknowledges that “Technology
appears to us most where we are most vulnerable” she emphasizes that “We are
designing technology that will give us the illusion of companionship without
the demand of friendship. We turn to technology to help us feel connected in
ways we can comfortably control”. During her research with the use of
technology she has discovered that a woman was comfortable using a robot for
her amity. She noticed that the woman had felt feelings and comfort with the
robot even though we humans take on those types of traits.
I feel that we have all lost one
another because of the needs we want every day. It is not hard to tell that
everyone in our generation depends on themselves and isolate themselves from
others and I feel the reason here is technology. Because we distance ourselves,
it is difficult for us to want to help others and care for them. What we only
care about is our needs and the needs that we want has a way on expanding more
brilliant than before. When our needs make us lazy in doing things, such as
SIRI (iPhone Navigator) finding us a nearby café, everything we do becomes
being lazy and that’s all that we soon to know. The effort we had once before
is not there anymore because technology is raising
us.